Going Gypsy is a thoughtful and thought-provoking memoir of one couple whose first adventure was to marry young and raise three children.
As their last child moved away to attend college in another city, David and Veronica, married for 30 years, found themselves asking the universal empty-nest question, Now what?
“When Veronica and I began to think about our lives after raising kids, one of the first things we did was Google ‘empty nesters’” David says.
They wanted to see if anyone else was looking at this the same way that they were: with a feeling of, isn't it great that the kids have moved out and we'll have life to ourselves again? To be untethered and free. Veronica says, “To wander the globe, to be gypsy-nesters instead of empty-nesters.”
Their book, Going Gypsy, tells how they decided to sell the nest, embark on an RV journey across America, reconnect with family and friends, conquer old fears, strengthen their marital relationship in a new way, and explore a new kind of adult relationship with their three grown children. They broke all of what they call “the empty-nest rules” and proved there is life after kids.
Chapters in the book alternate between David’s first-person point-of-view and Veronica’s first-person point-of-view, giving the book an open and balanced flavor.
Here’s a sample of their personable and open writing style:
“Raising kids is hard work and we couldn't comprehend all of these people grieving the end of the task. Granted, continuation of the species is one of life's prime motivations. Humans are after all, animals. But unlike the other critters, when we have finished the job of rearing the offspring, we're able to have some fun. Accept a big pat on the back. Job well done.
Our kids have grown into full-sized Homo Sapiens fully capable of feeding themselves. The time has come to let them do their own hunting and gathering. Trust me, when they get hungry enough, they will find food. But they have to learn to do it for themselves, otherwise they'll end up like zoo animals. If tigers get fed every day they never learn to hunt. Then when they're released into the wild, they starve.
Personally, we taught our little cubs that if they get really hungry, they can always kill and eat a bag of Ramen noodles.
They've gotten pretty good at it too.”
Going Gypsy is well-written and full of honesty and wit. If you have ever wondered what your life would be like without your children under the roof, this book will inspire you to new imagination.
I guarantee you’ll wonder, if David and Veronica could do this, what could I do?
David adds, “As we go we are conquering old fears, seeing new sights, reestablishing bonds with family and friends, and transforming our relationships with our three grown children from parent-child to adult-to-adult.”